5 steps to a more emotionally intelligent you!


Mind is really a dangerous weapon and its effect really depends on what you fill this weapon with.

If your mind is filled with negativity or irrational thoughts, you will end up shooting yourself but if it is filled with rational and positive thoughts you will end up leveling up more and more.  Training your mind isn’t as easy as it seems, it takes a lot of persistence, patience and shedding that big EGO a little bit.

One perfect tool for training your mind is “Meditation”, not only it will bring more clarity but also more peace and rationality to you. Being more clear and at peace becomes a great help to even adapt to a new way of thinking and doing things. And let’s admit it we all are stubborn a bit when it comes to doing things differently but clearing your mind from negativity will surely give you a better solution to any specific situation. Also from my personal experience, it will be a great help for physical discomfort caused by stress, such as headaches.

Meditation activates a pause button to that never ending race of thoughts that seems to be our new modern disease. And with the stress of daily life, a pause button is definitely a blessing.

“Nowhere can man find a quieter or more untroubled retreat than in his own soul.” – Marcus Aurelius

2.Releasing your emotions

By releasing your emotions, I don’t mean to be a serial killer but…  But to find alternative ways to release your emotions. It’s not about not feeling or not having the emotion inside you but about not letting it control you. You control your emotions, they don’t control you and you should be the master of them. But which are some of these alternative ways?

One of them is “exercising”, running or boxing with some loud music works best for releasing anger, even this comes from personal experience. Writing, painting, playing a sport that you like, listening to music, going for a walk, talking with someone are also some alternative ways that could save you from a lot of emotional baggage. And yes it takes some exploration to know what works best for you.

But can these negative emotions be used as a fuel to be more motivated to reach your goals?

Hmmm… Why not ?

Negative emotions + alternative healthy ways = POSITIVE OUTPUT. 😁

Similar with that quote:” I’m using your hate as my fuel”. Take these negative emotions and use it as a fuel to produce something that will make you feel proud in the near future.  And I don’t say this as a way to prove something to someone, you don’t own nothing to anyone but you own yourself a lot. Use those frustrating experiences in a way that doesn’t damage anyone.  Why not write a book out of it or push yourself to become a better version of yourself?  Transforming negative energy into positive result is what different levels of growth allows you to do.

Except these alternative ways, it is also needed to know when to rest and to be more forgiving with yourself.

“Instead of resisting any emotion, the best way to dispel it is to enter it fully, embrace it and see through your resistance.” ~ Deepak Chopra

3.Eating healthy

Would you believe me if I said to you that more than 80% of my anxiety disappeared when I started to eat healthier.

It’s not easy to control your emotions when anxiety chooses to take over. Staying calm and rational becomes not hard but impossible. Not only anxiety but also every other form of mental and physical discomfort can really turn you into a green HULK.

And we know what a green giant Hulk does. Destroys everything. And in this case your “Betty Ross” is a healthy lifestyle.

“To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.” – Buddha

4.Communicating properly

They say communication is a key but it can be a lock too, especially when you suck at it. And with a proper communication I mean an honest, clear and thoughtful one. Not every situation is as it seems and sometimes even when it looks like we have all the needed proves in hand we still end up not taking decision regarding the real issue but only on the presumed one. We may be close to the truth but we also may be wrong about it.

It’s not that easy to know a person without even taking the effort to know them, their character and intentions. Even though some people claim to be experts at reading other people just from their body language or their favorite color, the way they dress and every other external characteristics or preferences that they have.

 Improving your communication is not only the most rational solution for difficult or messy situations but also one who helps you to really know people and yourself too. Trying to be more understanding at others will definitely soothe and put your emotions in equilibrium. (And with understanding I don’t mean tolerating behaviors that damage you.)

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.”

Anthony Robbins

5.Knowing your triggers

Your triggers are a way of your own soul communicating with you on what you should work with or what to stay away from. Which are the situations that seem to make you to have less control over your emotions? Are there people or places you should avoid not because you are scared but because you care for your mental and spiritual peace? Are there certain foods or drinks that give you physical or mental discomfort?

 It takes a lot of mental strength to make this step because it requires to deeply look in yourself, more specifically on your darkest corners. It requires to stop running from your fears but to sit down with them for a moment.  Get to know them and why they are there and how to greet them properly…  Work on what triggers you until they no longer are responsible for your actions.

“We are not a victim of our emotions or thoughts. We can understand our triggers and use them as tools to help us respond more objectively. “  – Elizabeth Thornton

Written by Paradox Media.

4 responses to “5 steps to a more emotionally intelligent you!”

  1. Reblogged this on Eagle Productions Media and commented:

    “One cannot always tell what it is that keeps us shut in, confines us, seems to bury us, but still one feels certain barriers, certain gates, certain walls. is all this imagination, fantasy? I do not think so. And then one asks: My God! Is it for long, is it for ever, is it for eternity? Do you know what frees one from this captivity? It is very deep serious affection. Being friends, being brothers, love, that is what opens the prison by supreme power, by some magic force.”
    – Vincent Van Goch, letter to his brother, July 1880 (from Open: An Autobiography by Andre Agassi)


    Thanks for another follow (+ like(s)
    Happy blogging/writing and all the best with your blog
    “early bird sleepy-head” craig


    “It always seems impossible…
    until it gets done!”
    – Nelson Mandela
    You CAN…if you THINK you can

    “Put your fears behind you and your dreams in front of you…always.”

    Best wishes from the First City to see the light


    Don’t worry about the world ending today
    it’s already tomorrow in scenic and tranquil ‘little’ New Zealand

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  2. Excellent 5 steps thanks for sharing 😊👍👍

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      1. You are welcome 😊😊💕

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A fearless soul on a mission to evolve through diverse experiences and observation. A writer who connects with other people through the sincerity of thoughts. A friend to give and to receive advice . A rebel of living life my way.


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